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You’ve heard it before - “be a match for your desires!” So let’s dive a little deeper and focus on “how” to date with intention. Here are 4 tried and true INTENTIONS that have always helped lead our clients’ live into their dating goals:
1. Be Confident.
Firstly let’s be clear, confidence comes from knowing what you have to offer and knowing what you want. You do it in other areas of your life, and it’s the same when dating. When you come across someone who seems to align with your desires, make sure you aren’t afraid to make the first move. Putting yourself out there to show your interest in someone else takes confidence. And everyone is attracted to confidence! When you find someone equally receptive to your interest, then it’s time to explore the connection further! If not, then you also can show your confidence by moving on.
2. You Complete Yourself.
That’s right, no one completes you, except YOU! Don’t look at your future relationship like it is the missing puzzle piece to your happiness. If you do, you will always be searching for happiness outside of yourself. Your happiness needs to come from within you first, it should never be owned by someone else. Happiness is attractive and draws people to you. Accepting responsibility for your own happiness will allow you to engage in relationships from a higher perspective and allow you to bring more to any relationship. Then when you create a new relationship it is two complete parts coming together.
3. Rejection is a state of mind.
When dating with intention, you are looking for a great relationship fit to match your desires. And the person you are dating is doing the same. It has to work both ways, you have to like and want them and vise versa. So when it comes to someone not wanting to move forward, make sure to pivot your mindset to look at “rejection” as a sign. If there is a time you feel “rejected'' by another person, ask yourself, “are you rejecting me or allowing me to find the right fit as you are not my person?” Someone who does not wish to continue exploring your connection is not what you are looking for in a partner – they weren’t the right fit for you. There is no need to wallow - dust yourself off, take a moment to recenter your desires and trust that the actions are leading you to your match.
4. Enjoy the process.
Dating should be fun, don’t rush the process - enjoying everything that encompasses the process is how people fall in love. Be mindful to take the time to get to know someone new, yes, but more importantly, are you both having a good time while getting to know one another? Your time together should be exciting, light, and flirtatious. It’s a great way to show one another who you are, what you enjoy, and what you have to offer - all bringing you both to the reality of if your intentions are a match. These are the stepping stones to building the foundation of any relationship. Keep focusing on fun, romantic dates, phone conversations, or even text messages that will help steadily move things forward.
This year it is time to date with intention - and know that looks different for each person. So make your intentions work for you. Happy dating!