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A weekly column to answer your most frequently asked dating questions.

Q: No one seems ready for commitment, how can I tell early on without sounding desperate?

A:  Most people that I work with feel like they have put a lot of effort into closure on past relationships, improving social connections, and ultimately being “ready” to be in a committed relationship. Sometimes it can feel harder at this point because you are so clear on what you are looking for it’s almost as though the universe is serving you up everything but.
Patience is key at this point in the dating world. Trust that you are “ready” to pick a good partner for life long commitment now focus on enjoying the process of how this special person comes into your life. Envision how your love story will start.

This answer was contributed by Matchmaker and Dating Coach Jolene Beaton. 

Q: I feel so ready to find someone, why is it not happening?

A:  One way to discover someone’s relationship readiness is to share your thoughts, feelings and desires around dating, love and marriage. So instead of posing the question to your date. Simply share first or snag an opportunity from one of their questions to shift the conversation in that direction. For example, When someone asks why you are single or about the dating service you met though respond with what you are looking for. “I’m at a stage in my life where A committed relationship is a priority and I’m Ready to invest in dating one person at a time and let it unfold naturally.

This answer was contributed by Matchmaker and Dating Coach Jolene Beaton. 

Q: How has Dating changed in recent months?

A:  People seem to still have an unwavering desire to find a happy long term relationship, the shift that is most noticeable to me is people have developed more patience. Patience adds a little magic to new relationships

This answer was contributed by Matchmaker and Dating Coach Jolene Beaton. 

Q: Am I too old to be dating?

A:  No! Quite the opposite, people assume that dating is a young persons game. What we find at IJL is that with age comes experience and wisdom that translates perfectly into dating. People are attracted others that carry a strong sense of self and do not take themselves too seriously. You have earned badges that in a way entitle you too the great love story that awaits. So why not you? Why not now

This answer was contributed by Matchmaker and Dating Coach Jolene Beaton. 

Q: How do we date during a pandemic?

A:  Dating during pandemic is breeding a ton of creativity. First off, IJL is offering a virtual dating experience, until we can get back to in person dates. 

 

Remember, chatting for hours getting to know someone on the phone! Let’s bring it back! 

 

Zoom dates are a really fun way to meet someone, get creative with your questioning or maybe a name that tune challenge, even a show and tell with meaningful items around your house. 

People are staying connected with Words with Friends games. A great date idea might be to order the same food from a restaurant you bot like, then when you are able make that your first date spot! 

This answer was contributed by Matchmaker and Dating Coach Jolene Beaton. 

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